Finn has gotten big enough that we have pulled out our backpack. Lots of trekking in the little guys future! He seems to like it, but doesn't tolerate it for too long yet. It is really fun to have a new way to get around with Finn and Lily.
Sean is out of town doing fishy business. We thought it was supposed to be just a couple of days, but then the weather warmed up and field work intensified so they can catch the fish spawning. Thus I am a single parent for awhile. We are doing pretty well. Some days are long. I am trying to make sure I have something specific to do everyday to keep busy and break up the time a bit, but inevitably I run out of ideas on how to play with and entertain Finn. He is at a tough stage right now. He wants to move, but is not able to and I think this frustrates him. He wants to be independent in some ways, but really needs me to be right there with him. So he is upset if I am holding him, but then upset if I try to put him down. He doesn't want to be laying down, but sitting tall or even better standing.
He is also becoming increasingly interested in everything other than his toys. The telephone and remotes are very interesting items.
He is beginning to sit unassisted pretty well. He doesn't last long, but he is not falling right away and I have seen him correct himself a couple of times.
Finn got his first haircut. It was not the hype that a first haircut should be and I am not really counting it. I am sure you all have been wondering when we were going to do it and get the hair out of the poor kid's eyes. We have been talking about doing it a lot and when Sean was getting ready to leave early last Tuesday morning I lamented that I had wanted to cut Finn's hair before he left. So, next thing I know Sean has some scissors, we pull his hair away from his eyes and snip. Low and behold a terribly uneven haircut! Yes, we are good parents. At least he can see!
I went to a new mom's group today. It was nice. I feel a little strange at these things though. On the one hand I am happy to be out and meet people. I love the idea of moms sharing their trials and tribulations. I really want to make friends in the area. On the other hand, I am quite nervous. I am scared everyone is looking at me and realizing I haven't the first clue what I am doing, or worse yet judging how I am with Finn and thinking, gee she is a terrible mum. It was particularly bad today because Finn was the oldest baby in the bunch and one mom with a 6 week old was asking about sleep. Well the facilitator turned to me and asked how we were doing. So, I had to stutter about how we are the poorest example of sleep. Another mom made a comment that it is our job to teach our children to sleep well. I know she meant it to be helpful in the sense that babies don't know how to sleep on their own, but I took it personally. It is just my own insecurity in thinking I have done something wrong to this point and that is why Finn is such a terrible sleeper. Then, Finn is so active and I am trying to keep him entertained while everyone is chatting and he would go in and out of fussiness and I kept worrying that people were thinking I couldn't soothe my baby. Or maybe I shouldn't be putting him through that if he was fussy. I suspect it is all in my head (or hope it is) and I need to just get over it and keep trying (which I will), but I can't help but think all these things.
I thought I had lost all my underwear and nursing bras. I noticed at the beginning of the week I was getting low on these items so I did a load of laundry, but when I was folding found no underwear. I couldn't figure it out. I thought maybe Sean had done laundry and maybe put things away in his dresser and they were in the midst of his stuff. So I looked through it all and found nothing. I thought I was losing my mind and I was seriously wondering what I was going to do with out these necessities. Luckily, I found them tonight. Turns out my mom had put some laundry away while she was here and it just wasn't in the spot I usually put it. Yippee for undies!
Confession: I haven't been running since Sean left and I have eaten a ridiculous amount of Easter candy. I was reminded tonight that there is a race this coming weekend. Yikes!
Alas, it is getting late and I am beginning to babble so I will wrap this up. Happy Friday!
5 comments:
Finn looks great! I confess, I am one of those parents that hasn't had the heart to cute my little girls bangs out of her face. I keep trying to justify by using barettes etc. never mind the moms in your play group. Finn will learn to sleep just fine. Adeline was one of those antsy kids too. I was always a little jealous of the women who could put their baby in a bouncy chair and they would sit there for hours until I realized that they usually ended up the kids that would just sit for hours...
Have you invested in an exer-saucer yet. Soren is still a bit too young to really enjoy it for long, but it does allow for the "standing" that Finn is after.
As for working at home, Soren still very much dictates my schedule, although we are getting into a routine. Sadly, I still hold him for most naps as that's the only way I am productive at my computer for any amount of consecutive time....even one handed.
You are an amazing mommy so don't think twice about that!! You will always think other moms are staring and thinking bad thoughts. It does not go away. I finally have come to terms with the fact that I am doing the best things for MY family and not anyone elses! Tylenol episode and all. Besides, these little ones don't come with personalized instructions!! We get to figure them out as we go. And Sarah's right, those are the kids that don't get a lot of interaction, hence they sit and do nothing because that's all they know.
Emily also loved the saucer and she loved her jump-a-roo once she was big enough. Our OT told us that you should only let them be in it for about 10 minutes twice a day though. Because of the way their bodies are placed in it that can affect their muscle development if it is longer. We never used either with Rachel because she already had issues, obviously since we had an OT. :)
We love you all so much and don't feel bad about the running. If you could see my baby belly two babies later you would feel really good about your body!! I think you are half my size!!! :)
hi sadie -
please don't think twice about what the mama's said about sleep...you are doing everything right for your family. you will figure out a way to make finn's sleep patterns work for you. they WILL figure out the sleep stuff.
it is really nice to have a bunch of mamas to meet up with, but i think its important that you feel secure and not judged.
i found my mama friends at the LLL meetings, and it kinda worked out well cause we had similar points of view about bfing, sleep and babywearing. i REALLY hope you can find something too.
i know we're not local, but feel free to call anytime you want to vent about sleep!!!
http://www.girlsgonechild.net/2009/04/outsider-inside-her.html
I read this post this morning and thought of you on the mom group thing and I could relate. And I don't think you have to get to your second child per se to be a confident parent, just have to comfortably come to the realization that what your doing IS right bc it feels right for you, Sean & Finn. And at the same time recognize how impt mom friends are as sounding boards and supporters
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