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Friday, August 7, 2009

Sweet Glorious Sleep

I haven't talked about sleep in a long while. I stopped talking about it because it was awful and I was frankly tired of repeating the same story every time someone asked. Every night was the same and none of us were getting good restful sleep. We put Finn down and on occasion we would get 2 hours before his first wake up, but often he would wake up every half hour until we go to bed and then end up co-sleeping. We were okay with this for awhile because while we didn't get a lot of sleep co-sleeping, it was still better than not. Well, in the past month even co-sleeping hasn't been cutting it. Finn would still wake up often and it was getting harder and harder to soothe him back down. When we were at the apartment, I could go to the living room and cuddle him on the couch or just let him play until he got tired again, but when we moved to the new house, we had nowhere to go in the middle of the night since the place was carpeted in boxes. This left us struggling with a lot of sleepless nights. Now, there is seriously a reason that sleep deprivation is a torture technique. It is terrible and affects everything. Sean and I were in such terrible moods. Well, I have been working very hard on getting Finn into a more regular routine here at the house and always putting him in his crib for naps. Then, after months of Finn refusing to be comforted by Sean in the middle of the night, he suddenly decided that Dad is just fine for a good cuddle. So, two nights ago, Sean and I decided to try to keep Finn in his crib through the entire night. I was leery of this, expecting to not get any sleep. I like to go to bed earlier than Sean, so he took the bedtime to midnight shift and then I took it after. We discovered the first night that Finn needs a light on. When Sean went to turn off the light in the kitchen which gives light into Finn's room, he woke up more often, but when we left the light on, he tended to sleep longer. That first night, Finn woke up just two times during Sean's shift and went back down pretty quickly. Then, he woke up at 1am, it took me one hour to get him back into his crib, but then he slept til 5am! Then, last night, he had a hard time getting to sleep, but after that he only woke up twice during Sean's shift (11pm and 11:30pm) going back down quite quickly. Then, he slept until 3am! I went to bed at 10 and so I got 5 blissful hours of uninterrupted sleep. It has literally been 9 months since I have gotten that much sleep in a row! And, I was able to get Finn back to sleep in a 1/2 hour and he slept until 5:30am! I had a hard time going back to sleep after I got him down, but I would say I got another 1 hr and a 1/2 in! I feel magnificent. I have been floating on a cloud all morning. You don't realize how much you are affected by disrupted sleep until you get a good rest. I am ecstatic. I realize two nights does not constitute a pattern, but I do pray we are on a good course and things only get better from here.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

I am so happy for you and do hope this is the start of many. I love you and miss you. Sissy

Mimi said...

Yay Finn!!
We are definitely in the same restless stage here. Our nights mirror your description, even co-sleeping has become a bit of a challenge.
When Finn is waking up, are you nursing him back to sleep? If not, what are you doing to get him back asleep. Soren has slept until 645 the last 2 days, which is a welcome relief to the 430 risings, but in the middle of the night we have quite a few interruptions. I am as ready as you are for some consecutive sleep.

Sadie said...

When we were co-sleeping, I would nurse him every time to go back to sleep. Sometimes this would get him to sleep while other times, he would nurse a bit and then go back to rolling, tossing, turning, getting up to crawl, kicking or hitting us..you name it. These past two nights, I have nursed him on my "shift." So, the first night it was at 1am. He nursed for awhile and then he just had to be rocked into a deep sleep before I could put him down which took about 40 minutes. Then, he slept 3 hours until 5am. Last night, he woke at 3am. I nursed him and he ate with gusto and then fell asleep. I rocked him another 10 minutes to make sure he was out before I put him in his crib. Then he was out for another 3 hours, waking at 5:30am. On Sean's shift, he gives Finn his pacifier and then rocks or bounces him in his arms to sleep. This is very new, as for a long while, he would scream if Sean tried to get him to sleep. We are so excited that Sean is able to do it again. So, all in all, we are only getting 3-4 hour stretches of Finn sleeping, but with us working in shifts, we are able to get 5 ourselves. I feel like this gives us a good base to start working on things more. Hopefully, we can eventually cut out the nighttime nursing and then also the pacifier. But, definitely baby steps. I think we should give this setup a good week or so to see if it is a pattern and then work on one wakeup at a time, revisiting No-Cry Sleep Solution methods. I do think committing to crib napping has helped. He will nap in the stroller or a wrap when we are walking or in the car, but I am going to try not to just hold for naps any longer. Best of luck with Soren!

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Mimi said...

Sadie, I have been in tears 3 times today. Your post couldn't have come at a better time for me. We are going through the exact same thing (schedules are very similar) as you and it is so reassuring to know its not just me and my baby. Night time hasn't been an issue for us until recently, but nap time is another story. Soren continues to just want to be held. Added to the new night time restlessness and I am cranky & tired.

It is good that Finn is open to Sean at night again. Soren is definitely not there yet. I worry as the night time wake ups are becoming more frequent. I was blaming it on teething but now I am not so sure and don't want to just chalk it up as a stage. For a long period he was going 10 pm to 7 am and then added a 3 AM wake up in there and now it can be up to 4-5 a night.

I agree, its a matter of finding a pattern and sticking with it. You've given me hope today...I will keep thinking good sleep thoughts for you, Sean and Finn!

Sadie said...

Oh Megan, hang in there! I bet teething was a part of it and then there is the crawling. I have read in multiple sources that major milestones like crawling really mess with their sleep. I think that is Finn's problem sometimes. It is like his neurons can't stop firing in his effort to work on crawling and walking.

A few other things I think have helped are that before, we never played or spent much time in Finn's room. We were always in the living room playing. Now, in the new house, Finn's room was the first we set up and so we spent a lot of time it is playing, etc. Maybe try to spend more time other than sleeping in Soren's room. Also, definitely try a nice night light. I swear the light is helping.

I also remember in No-Cry, she says that babies don't fully establish their diurnal system until 9-10 months. Not a comfort at this point for you, but maybe that is the key too.

Of course, who knows if this is just a fluke for Finn. It is all so tenuous. But, they will NOT be waking up all the time forever! There are sleep filled nights in our future!

Mimi said...

Too bad we don't live closer to one another. When the boys finally sleep soundly, we can have a slumber party like when we were young except go to sleep really really early ;)

I forgot about the part in No-Cry about the milestones. He does wake up like he's ready to take on the world at 1 am....that may be it.

Thanks again...it's so nice to have another mom with a son in the same age group to bounce ideas off of.

Hope you had another great night with Finn! Enjoy your weekend!